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True Parenting Stories: “I Have a Toddler and Yet Somehow Found Time to Read a 14-Page-Long New Yorker Article”

So firstly, to clarify, I feel like other people with toddlers are going to narrow their eyes and go, “What did you mean by “read an article?  Like skimmed?  Like read all the captions underneath all the photographs and got the gist of it?”  And here I am blushing as I tell you that no—I read all of the words in the article.  The entire article, all the way up to the little black diamond that indicates a New Yorker article is finished.   My father buys me a subscription to the magazine every year as a gift and for years I would read it religiously—first all the cartoons and funny parts, followed by the actual articles, followed by the book and movie reviews.  For the past two years all that changed.  After the arrival of my son the delivery of the magazine became a weekly reminder that:

a.) there were people in the world with journalism degrees earning professional respect and

b.) that I did not have any free time.

But times they are a’changing, because I read an entire article in this week’s magazine and by “this week’s” I mean the one that came out on December 8th, with the black and white arch on the cover.

This one.
This one.

“That’s impressive,” you’re saying skeptically.  “But I’m not sure I believe you really read it from beginning to end.  How could you have, with a toddler in the house?”

A good point.  I’m tempted to say “Sit down and I’ll tell you the tale of how I read this New Yorker article start to finish but I know that you probably can’t sit down because you’re doing between four and nine thousand things, so continue registering your child for soccer camp and/or an HTML workshop while simultaneously making Macaroni and Cheese and breastfeeding an infant that may or may not even be yours.  I can tell you the story while you multitask.  It’s fine.

It all began many, many hours ago when my husband said, “Hey, do you want me to watch him for a little while so that you can relax?”  Having recently become feral, I peered up from the lint-covered Triscuit that I had been eating after finding it in the pocket of my son’s overalls.  My hair was matted into dreadlocks and my eyes peered out, frightened but hopeful, like the gaze of someone who has been unjustly imprisoned for many years.

Unable to speak, I nodded frantically.  “Yes,” I attempted to say with Gorilla-type sign language gestures.  “Me want have free time no watch baby.  You is watch?”

Yes,” my husband signed, grunting.  “Me is watch baby next few hours.  You is no have baby, is relax.”

And with that, he whisked the baby off to the other room so that I was left alone with a New Yorker magazine that had fallen behind one of the couch cushions.  I immediately read all the cartoons and the one-page-long funny “Shouts and Murmurs” section.  This felt wonderful, I thought to myself.  Look at me!  Sitting on a sofa reading a magazine!  Like a person!   This is like a thing a person would do!  I imagined myself doing other “person” things like going out for a drink with friends or seeing a show.  What an imagination I have!  But back to the article.

A photo of the article I read.
This is the article.

The article I read was something about young kids training to ride rodeo bulls.  It was between reading that and reading one about a Parisian department store, but the Parisian department store one had too many French words and even several English words I had to look up (excrescences?) so I abandoned it after a few paragraphs in a cloud of shame and defeat.  The second article had fewer mentions of things like the “Pont des Arts” and more mentions of the price of bull semen so I felt it might be a better match for where I was both intellectually and emotionally.  So for longer than it takes a normal person to read an article, I immersed myself in the world of eight-year-old boys who want to ride rodeo bulls.

The article starts with this crazy bull whose name is, I think, Bodacious, and then I had to take a five-minute break from reading because the baby walked back into the room going, “Pells!  Sol Pells!” which means he wants to watch “Los Exitosos Pells,” an Argentine telenovela that he watches with his father on the computer.   Jonathan swooped in and pulled him back into the nursery, allowing me to resume reading and learn that this one guy who tried to ride Bodacious got his entire face smashed in and it took 13 hours of reconstructive surgery to make him look human again.  Another rider asked to wear a hockey mask while riding the bull and still managed to fracture his eye socket.

There are eight-year-olds who watch this sport and fervently want to partake in it, apparently, although I feel that most likely my son will not be one of them as he is afraid of my hairdryer and most playground equipment.  As I am thinking this he walks back into the room holding a stuffed monkey and a toy excavator, exclaiming “Merry Christmas” and announcing that he has to go to the bathroom.  I momentarily get up to guide him toward the bathroom while explaining in a good natured way that it is no longer Christmas and then I think the article talks for a while about religion or Oklahoma or something.  It was really engaging.  Great article!

The sofa where I was able to lie down for some unmeasured amount of time and leisurely read to myself.
The sofa where I was able to lie down for some unmeasured amount of time and leisurely read to myself.

While “enjoying the article” I am also frantically looking for the little black diamond indicating that the article is over so that I can say that I read the entire article.  Every time I turn the page I look for it but page after page it is more information about rodeos and wow, I am learning a lot about bull semen.  I debate slipping this information into the dialogue at my next mom’s group.

“It’s crazy that they now have events where top bulls can compete against each other carrying dummy cowboys in order to be rated on their bucking ability?  And that the winner at a single event can take home a quarter of a million bucks? AND THAT A TUBE OF CHAMPION BULL SEMEN IS WORTH OVER $5,000?” 

“I’m not sure how that’s related to Tamara’s homeschooling curriculum,” one of the mothers will say, eyeing me strangely, holding her daughter close.

But that’s not my problem right now because I am BLISSFULLY LOST IN THE JOY OF READING THIS ARTICLE.  So long New York playground full of Beckets and Connors and Emmas.  I am fully absorbed into the world of kids with names like Wyatt and Trigger, all of whom are wearing paisley shirts and belt buckles the size of my face.   There is a page featuring badass elementary-aged cowgirls in events such as goat tying and mutton busting, which leads me to pull out my laptop and Google search the phrase “What is mutton busting?” only to spend the next ten minutes watching videos of six-year-olds in hockey masks clinging to sheep that are having a nervous breakdown.  The sheep run frantically like someone desperately late for a dentist appointment while the children grip them like enormous deer ticks.  Bull riding seems too dangerous but mutton busting seems like something I could possibly get behind—not necessarily for my son so much as for myself.  I imagine clinging to the backs of one of the desperate, feverish sheep as it takes off across the arena kicking up dirt and tufts of animal hair.  That is what I want, I think—to hold on to something for dear life, giddy with the joy of speed and the hint of danger.  I do not want to join a gym and take a strength training class, I want to learn to shoot a bow and arrow while riding a horse.   A few weeks ago I saw a video about breakdancers and wanted to be a professional breakdancer except that I am a woman in her 30’s with bad knees and all the guys I see doing it in the subway stations are 19 with bodies made of something that is half muscle, half Gumby-type elastic.

But it would be fun to compete in something.  I don’t get the chance to do things that are dangerous anymore.  The other day when I was at a friend’s apartment with the baby someone told me, “Be careful!  He could pinch his fingers!  The bedroom door is very dangerous,” and yes (Do not worry!) I was careful, but it is weird to think of a bedroom door as being “very dangerous.”   I never close a bedroom door and think, “Gracious me, I narrowly escaped with my life!”

“Hi hi hi hi hi.”  My son walks back into the room pulling, with difficulty, a large rolling suitcase.  His father trails him.

“What the hell are you watching?” my husband asks, squinting at my computer.

“Nothing,” I say.  I minimize the mutton busting video and move on.  MUST FINISH ARTICLE! PLEASE STAY FOCUSED!

I continue reading (there are seemingly infinite pages in this article), learning that there is a former bull riding champion upset over the breeding of fiercer and fiercer bulls.  I learn that a bull rider’s score is based not only on his ability but also on the difficulty of the bull that he is assigned at random. (If you are a great rider but are given only a mediocre animal, it is difficult to score well)  I learn that Bodacious has been retired from bull riding because his owner was nervous that he would kill someone.  I learn, from the black and white photos, that everybody in this sport wears cowboy hats and if someone is not wearing a cowboy hat it is because they are wearing a hockey mask to prevent their face from getting smashed in like a porcelain tea kettle under a sledgehammer.

And suddenly I glance down at the page and there it is, the little black diamond that means I have reached the end of the article.

This one.
Finally.

I HAVE DONE IT.  I thought it would feel more fulfilling but there is not a lot to do after you finish an article—you can either go on to read the next one or get up and eat more peanut butter cups and check Facebook again.  I flip around in the magazine for a few seconds, vaguely proud, but unsure of what to do with myself.

The apartment is fairly quiet.  I bite my lip, waiting to be presented with a trophy engraved with the words, “First Place: New Yorker Article Finishing,” but Jonathan and the baby are in the nursery playing and, as if often the case, no one else is around.


Comments

33 responses to “True Parenting Stories: “I Have a Toddler and Yet Somehow Found Time to Read a 14-Page-Long New Yorker Article””

  1. Tab Yang Avatar
    Tab Yang

    Fabulous post! Yes, I have a toddler and read that too! I have long neglected my New Yorker magazines, but have recently been able to read a page here and there before I fall asleep at night. I think this article had to be read over several days while in the bathroom after the toddler was in bed. I kind of justified it as a parenting article. Sheep riding perhaps could be in our son’s future, but not the selected-for-insanity bulls that the older kids ride. Thank you for more hilarity.

  2. christina bitha Avatar
    christina bitha

    I am a mother of two girls (five and one years old), and at the same time I am trying to do my job, like, be a journalist/film critic. (Not).
    I couldn’t stop laughing like crazy while reading this article. Really, you made my day 😀

  3. “And here I am blushing as I tell you that no—I read all of the words in the article.”

    Go you! Congratulations!

  4. Diana T. Avatar
    Diana T.

    I love, love, love your posts! Our boys are about the same age, so a lot of your material resonates with me, but I also just love your voice. This was great!

  5. I absolutely loved this article! I too read all the words, all the while, my son is sitting next to me talking about ninja turtles and telling me he is hungry, although he just ate and telling me he can’t stay still because there is something crazy in his body…yeeea, my 4 year old is a hoot! Your article made me laugh out loud and smile. I know the feeling of having some free time to do something that “normal” people do every day lol. Go you!!!

  6. Note to Self: Tag The Ugly Volvo blog feed as “LOL”. Particular favorites in this article: “bodies made of something that is half muscle, half Gumby-type elastic, ” and “it is weird to think of a bedroom door as being “very dangerous.” I never close a bedroom door and think, “Gracious me, I narrowly escaped with my life!”” I’ll have to be more careful of bedroom doors in the future.

  7. It doesn’t matter how small the task, doing person-related tasks with small kids are always victories! Sending an e-high-five your way!

  8. Kimberley Avatar
    Kimberley

    I READ THIS ENTIRE BLOG ON THE SAME DAY YOU SENT IT!!!!! Granted my 5 year old is watching YouTube and potentially playing with fire and I have an infant attached to my bosom, so it took me 6 hours… I totally get you!!!! Congratulations ! I’ll read the New Yorker when they’re in high school.

  9. I love this! You crack me up. Also, I’m super fascinated by bull semen (who isn’t!) so this post was both entertaining and highly informative.

  10. I am 39 and do not have kids, but I do have a very similar sense of humor as you and this made me lol with actual tears! I feel I would totally be a hot mess of a mother and possibly have a blog much like this. I think there would be a lot less “breeders” out there if more people were honest with themselves about life and how it will no longer exist as they know it once the wee one comes along. I think some of my friends are seriously miserable and only want me to have one so I will be also. Not gonna happen, lol!! I’m already married….

  11. I read this while my Jonathan is watching our five month old daughter and I eat icecream in the bedroom, hiding from her. As with all your posts, I laugh out loud at multiple points in the story. Thanks for writing and voicing what we are all thinking as new moms.

  12. caroline seguin Avatar
    caroline seguin

    I just love reading your page. You are wonderful! Thank you 🙂

  13. I sneaked away from my toddler with a “friend” who convinced me to drive to a sketchy part of Seattle in the dark of night to swing on a trapeze in a warehouse where circus people sleep. If you can’t find a mutton to bust, you might try that. Apparently it’s all the rage. Meanwhile, it took me three tries and ten minutes to write this comment. Because toddlers, man.

  14. hilarious! You are so very funny I always need to relieve myself BEFORE I sit down to skim through your work! thanks for the giggles

  15. Mazal Tov! It will probably happen again in 5 or 6 years!

    1. theuglyvolvo Avatar
      theuglyvolvo

      Well let’s not jump to unrealistic conclusions!

  16. Lynn Addison Avatar
    Lynn Addison

    Wonderful. I always read The Ugly Volvo with such pleasure. My children are 21 and 27 now; doesn’t matter. About that dangerous bedroom door. A young mother with a toddler body was visiting recently and as he closed the door to the den behind himself she said repeatedly: Be gentle with the door, be gentle, be gentle with the door! I finally asked her why she was saying that and she said: “I don’t want him to slam the door.” I asked her why she didn’t just sat THAT, and she looked at me as if she couldn’t understand how my children actually made it into their 20s with a horrible mother like me.

  17. When my son was that age, any New Yorker articles I read would be on the can, just the magazine and no internet distractions. I’d emerge proudly with an article read, especially those longer Profile ones of really interesting people doing marvelous things that are so far from my current world. A few times I was prompted to consider getting a more comfortable toilet seat.

  18. I love this post! Well done. Also congratulations to your husband for offering to take the baby for a while and actually following through.

  19. I took me five days to get to this but it was worth it! I am 45 pages into the first book I planned to read when I went on maternity leave in March 2014. Now wrestling the iPad away from my 10 month old so I can finish this comment…

  20. Kathy Mortensen Avatar
    Kathy Mortensen

    I do love reading your posts, especially when they make me laugh out loud. “The sheep run frantically like someone desperately late for a dentist appointment while the children grip them like enormous deer ticks.” So evocative. My children are long grown and gone, but I’m not sure I’ve ever finished a long New Yorker article. I didn’t know there were black diamonds at the end. Perhaps echoing the “black diamond” ski runs: for experts only.

    1. theuglyvolvo Avatar
      theuglyvolvo

      In that case I should be looking for the articles with the blue circles at the end. (I think that means the bunny hill? I’ve only skied twice in my life.)

  21. Andrea A Avatar
    Andrea A

    Loved this. I read the whole thing with my laptop sandwiched between the unwashed lunch dishes and Baby Mum-Mum wrappers that cover my dining room table while my “2 under 2” actually managed to nap at the same time. The world must be coming to an end!

  22. This is the best article about reading an article I have ever read.

  23. Great article… although I confess I skimmed, and possibly skipped some paragraphs. I’m trying to save my uninterrupted reading time for one of them mass market books!

  24. Margaret Avatar
    Margaret

    One of the greatest things about the New Yorker is the 3 panel format. I found it to be the PERFECT reading material while nursing, because you could fold it in such a way to easily hold it while laying on your side. So, when my child was young I read the magazine all the way through each week. No, not so much.

  25. 1. I love you.
    2. I well remember 30+ years ago (a) reading Bartlett’s Quotations b/c I could read an ENTIRE quotation without being interrupted, and then (b) getting mad and reading “Rise and Fall of the Third Reich” but in such fragments that I understood and retained nothing.
    3. But time passes, and I am now reading “Remembrance of Things Past”! You will too someday.

    1. theuglyvolvo Avatar
      theuglyvolvo

      I have squeezed in a few books while he sleeps. I don’t sleep as much as I should but it’s worth the effort.

  26. So funny and so true! I have a fourteen months old boy. Last week I was so tired that I almost had a breakdown. My husband offered to take care of the baby while I could rest a bit. Really?? (And I totally thought in the way you expressed yourself: me having free time you say possible??) . For the first time in fourteen months I was alone in my bathroom and I took a long bath with foam and relaxing music. I couldn’t believe it; I was a real person!!

  27. kathryn Avatar
    kathryn

    i have a 9 month old so sorry i didn’t finish this. i really wanted to… one day?

  28. WHYYYYYYYYYY are they so long? I (used to) read articles in there that I’ve shown actual prior interest in and by the third time I’m turning the page i’m serious asking– am I still reading this? Seriously, is this still happening??? Honestly.

    1. theuglyvolvo Avatar
      theuglyvolvo

      I know a bit too much about a lot of interesting topics.

  29. I’ve read 700+ page books in a weekend. Just decided to take time for myself and relax while toddler napped and I read much after she went to bed.

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