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The 33-Step Extremely Fun Board Game of Having a Second Child

Are you ready to play the extremely fun 33-step game of having more than one child??  Awesome!  Unfold that game board, rub your hands together enthusiastically and let’s get started!

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Ready?  Set?  Go!!!

1.) START!  Second child comes out of body.  (Most often vaginally or C-section but would love to hear stories!  Intestinal birth?  Sprung fully formed from head?  Email me!)

2.) Child sleeps in two-hour increments for the first 2 ½ months. Lose a turn!

3.) Younger child is colicky and continually wakes up older child due to crying. Lose a turn!

4.) You develop debilitating post-birth sciatica which is not helped by the fact that your body cannot heal because you are never able to sleep more than 2 hours at a stretch. Lose two turns.  Pay $500 to various chiropractors and physical therapists.

5.) STAY WITH IT, YOU WERE TOLD GAME GETS BETTER.

6.) Breast feeding not magical. Lose a turn.

7.) Older child needs more attention than you currently have. Lose one turn, most of your sanity, and 1/3 of your hair due to postpartum shedding.

8.) Get postpartum depression from all your lost turns—not the terrible kind where you want to send yourself and the baby over Niagara Falls in a barrel because you’re no longer able to feel joy, but still, postpartum depression is postpartum depression. Lose a turn and then get more upset about the additional lost turn so lose another turn.

9.) 20 POINTS FOR NOT PUTTING YOUR HEAD THROUGH A WALL AND SCREAMING ALL THE TIME. Advance three spaces!

10.) Older child gets lice. Lose a turn. Pay $50 for lice shampoos and wire combs.

11.) You get lice. Lose a turn.

12.) You briefly thank your lucky stars that younger child does not have enough hair to get lice. Advance one space! YOU WILL WIN THIS GAME IF IT KILLS YOU AND OMG, THE GAME KILLING YOU LOOKS LIKE AN ACTUAL, REAL POSSIBILITY.

13.) Younger child begins sleeping longer. YES YES YES, FINALLY, THE HOLY GRAIL OF BABY HAVING, YOU HAVE ATTAINED IT!  ADVANCE ONE SPACE!  THIS GAME IS STARTING TO TURN AROUND!

14.) Older child gets pinkeye. Go back three spaces

15.) Older child infects younger child with pinkeye. Go back four spaces.

16.) Younger child gets extreme congestion/chest cough. Go back five spaces.

17.) Younger child reverts to sleeping in two-hour stretches due to congestion. Lose a turn.  Return to beginning of board.  Pay $1000 to health insurance provider for WHO-EVEN-KNOWS-WHY.

18.) Your sciatica returns as you are once again sleeping in two-hour stretches. Lose a turn.

19.) You develop chest cough and extreme congestion. Lose a turn.

20.) COME. ON. Lose a turn.

21.) That’s not fair! You can’t just—Lose a turn.

22.) STOP IT! Lose a turn.

23.) COMPLETE EMOTIONAL COLLAPSE DUE TO A COMBINATION OF ILLNESSES, SLEEP DEPRIVATION, UNATTENDED PTA MEETINGS, PHYSICAL DISCOMFORT, FINANCIAL ANXIETY AND DEEP, DEEP SADNESS OVER YOUR SEEMING INABILITY TO MOVE FORWARD IN ANY SORT OF MEANINGFUL WAY. DO NOT LOSE A TURN.  DO NOT GO BACK ANY SPACES.  DO NOT GO AHEAD ANY SPACES.  DO NOT COLLECT OR PAY OUT ANY MONEY.  STAY IN ONE SPACE AND CRY FOR A LONG TIME UNTIL THE GAME BOARD IS SATURATED WITH TEARS. 

24.) WHY

25.) IS

26.) THIS

27.) SO

28.) HARD?????????????

29.) Younger child begins smiling. Move forward 30 spaces.

30.) Older child bonds with and is incredibly sweet with younger sibling. Move forward 100 spaces.

31.) Younger child suddenly sleeps well and smiles constantly. You and younger child spend hours smiling at each other and gazing into each other’s eyes.  Move forward 12 billion spaces.  Continually circle the game board until you have worn a groove through the cardboard and collect all the money and all the points.

32.) Get approached by a stranger who goes, “Oh, are you playing that game? How is it?  I was debating playing it.”

33.) Look up with tears in your eyes. Go, “Oh, this?  It’s fantastic, you should totally play.”

 

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Happy holidays  🙂


Comments

18 responses to “The 33-Step Extremely Fun Board Game of Having a Second Child”

  1. I needed this today. Thank you! LOVE IT!

  2. I’m due with my 2nd in 2 months and I really needed to read that 2nd half of the game. All I’m hearing from my friends is how “not easy” this is going to be. Thanks!

  3. Oh God, yes. My youngest is almost nine months old, so this is so fresh to me. I haven’t had the awful luck you’re describing – sciatica, lice (ugh) – but the push and pull between the two kids is so hard, especially after I went back to work. My husband is a stay-at-home dad, so all they want is me when I get home. The love and need can be overwhelming!

  4. As with my first child, you and I are going through all the steps at the exact same time. And as with almost every single post, this made me laugh and cry. Of all the mom blogs and articles (the ones we spend every “spare” moment reading to make sure we aren’t missing something new and important and vital to our children’s success as human beings) , yours hit home in a way others just don’t. Please keep it up, for so long as it is possible for you to do so. We all need to know it’s not just us.

    1. Raquel D'Apice Avatar
      Raquel D’Apice

      I’m always so glad they’re enjoyed. I read the comments to remind myself it’s not just me.

  5. One word: Fantastic!

  6. I forwarded to two of my former postpartum clients who are both thinking of baby #2. I know they’ll enjoy it! Thanks.

  7. You are a wonderful mother and writer! I loved this. I recognized myself in it too. #29, #30 and #31 made me smile like crazy! It’s so true!! Love you and thank you, keep you texts coming, I love reading them so much. Can we see a photo? 🙂

  8. Carn Waxler Avatar
    Carn Waxler

    How is the dog coping? You wrote such a sweet column before, just wondering how he’s doing now….

    1. Raquel D'Apice Avatar
      Raquel D’Apice

      As with last time the first couple months were the hardest but she’s back to getting the attention she needs. 🙂

  9. so much drama. my third is 2 months and my older two are 3.5 and 20 months. #2 had lice when i was 5 days postpartum. it’s a zoo here. two was really easy by comparison.

  10. Jennifer Decker Avatar
    Jennifer Decker

    My favorite post to date. Made me lol and cry at the end, while I hold my second child (4 weeks old) and my older child (22 months old) hangs on my leg crying and wiping his buggers everywhere.
    Thank you, I needed this today

  11. lisa rubenstein Avatar
    lisa rubenstein

    you continue to be so funny. i always laugh when i read you and my kids are LONG grown up. keep up the great writing.

  12. I don’t know, my kids are about the same age as yours and I’m still stuck at #24-28. The baby sleeps great, has been smiling for months (she’s 7 months now) and has an adorable relationship with her almost four year old brother. But my back is still killing me (mine is the mid back from nursing/carrying kids) and the four year old just got kicked out of preschool. How is everyone doing this?! I can’t believe women in the 50s did this job in high heels and a dress, with a lot more than 2 kids. And no iPads. And their husbands expected them to be keeping the house clean and getting dinner on the table every night!

  13. Holy hell- that sounds so much like the newborn phase with my last daughter (LAAAAASSSSSTTTT kid, I swear to all these tubes that had to be tied twice)- down to the lice and sleeping and never getting ahead! And then boom- here we are, all ahead and everything, look at us!

    Love your blog- well done!

  14. We’re currently experiencing steps 1-9. My older child is 20 months and the younger is 2 months. We did get a tease of a couple 5-6 hr stretches of sleep, but then Christmas happened and everything is thrown again 🙂 The smiles are pretty great though!

  15. Rochelle Avatar
    Rochelle

    You are really funny! I played the game 4 times and I would totally recommend it to everyone…..but #1-28 are spot on (all four times for me). The good news is, the game keeps getting better and better the older the children get. Thanks for helping us all to laugh!

  16. Kristen Avatar
    Kristen

    This is PERFECT! I really needed this tonight, thank you.

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