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The Difficulties of Trying for a Second Child

attempt 1

Attempt 1:

Man:  “Hello!  Don’t you look ravishing this evening!  Would you care to join me in the bedroom and make a second child?”

Woman:  Thank you for the compliment!  Unfortunately I worked an 8-hour day and then spent two hours at home entertaining a two-year-old and unloading the dishwasher.  I am not in the mood to create a second child right now.  Thank you so much for your inquiry!

End Scene

attempt 2 exhausted pitiful

 

Attempt 2:

Man:  “Here we are, alone in bed with an uninterrupted thirty minutes at our disposal!   Would you care to create a second child right now?

Woman:  I am tempted, since even after the four minutes of child-creating intercourse, I will have twenty-six minutes of free time!

Man:  How wonderful for both of us!

With woman in his embrace, the two of them throw themselves onto the bed.  We hear a loud SQUEAK as the woman reaches down to reveal SOPHIE THE GIRAFFE.  Man once again attempts to kiss woman.  Woman rolls over on the bed onto an uncomfortable hard object and we hear an electronic voice say, “¡HOLA!  ¿QUIERES CANTAR  EL ALFABETO CONMIGO?”

Woman:  I apologize, I am no longer in the mood to create a second child with you.

Man: I am saddened, but I understand.

Electronic Toy:  Estas son las letras del alfabeto. ¡Cantemos juntos!

End Scene

attempt 3 anguish and disgust

Attempt 3:

Woman:  You are in luck!  Not only am I in the mood to create a second child with you this evening, I have cleared our room of any distracting auditory toys!

Man:  I would love to make a child with you this evening!  (Lovingly kisses woman’s neck )

Woman:  I’m looking forward to it.  Tonight is the night that we—

Man:  WHAT IS ON YOUR NECK?

Woman:  I am not aware of any—

Man: OH MY GOD, IT’S HIS BOWEL MOVEMENT.   THERE’S PART OF HIS BOWEL MOVEMENT ON YOUR NECKI!  NOW IT’S IN MY MOUTH.  HOW DID THIS EVEN HAPPEN?!?!  HOW THE *#$% DID IT GET ON YOUR NECK?!

Woman:  PLEASE COME BACK HERE AND HELP ME GET IT OFF MY NECK!

Man:  IT’S IN MY MOUTH!

End Scene

attempt 4 deep emotional bond

Attempt 4:

Woman:  The night is beautiful and young and the child is asleep!  Are you interested in maybe—

Man:  The Game of Thrones Finale starts in seven minutes.

Woman:  OH MY GOD, I FORGOT IT’S SUNDAY.  I’m grabbing a bag of pita chips and I’ll be right down.

End Scene

attempt 5 romantic lighting

Attempt 5:

Man:  Now that season 6 of Game of Thrones is over and child #1 is asleep for the night, would you care to try for child #2?

Woman:  (Hands man a large sheaf of papers)  I would, except that I just looked at our 2015 finances and it appears we cannot even afford child #1.

Man:  I’m sure it can’t be that bad.  Let me look over the—

There is a long, dramatic pause.

Man cont’d:  Oh.

Woman:  (silence)

Man:  Okay.

Woman:  Thoughts?

Man:  Could we feed him less?  Would your parents want him?

End Scene

attempt 6 nothing can stand in their way 

Attempt 6:

Woman:  I am totally in the mood to hop into bed and make an additional child with you!

Man:  I have been dreaming about making an additional child with you all day!

Woman:  Then this is it!  This is the moment we’ve been waiting for!

Child #1: (Suddenly waking up)  Mamamamama.  Mama!  Mamamamama!  Mama!  Mama!  MAMA!  MAMA!  (Cries like the world is ending for over forty-five minutes until both parents are near tears and/or have ground their teeth down to dust.)

End Scene

attempt 7 really really nothing can stand in their way

Attempt 7

Woman:  I am totally in the mood to hop into bed and make an additional child with you!

Man:  I have been dreaming about making an additional child with you all day!

Woman:  And child #1 is at my parents’ house!

Man:  Then this is it!  This is the moment we’ve been waiting for!

Woman’s Body:  Have fun guys!  I won’t be fertile for another two weeks!

End Scene

attempt 8 come on do this or were not going to do this

Attempt 8

Man:  You look beautiful tonight.

Woman:  No way.  Not with that stunt you pulled.

Man:  What did I do?

Woman:  YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DID.*

Man:  I have no idea what I did!

*Last week man said he was going to pick up dishwashing detergent but then forgot.  Woman, after waiting almost a full week, went out and bought dishwashing detergent two days ago.  Man has not yet noticed, nor has he remembered that he was the one who was supposed to buy it. 

End Scene

attempt 9 do we maybe just want to give up 

Attempt 9

Man:  I was wondering if tonight might be a nice evening to make a second child with you, but you seem to be in a long term relationship with your Facebook news feed.

Woman:  (staring at phone) Hey, sorry, I just posted an unrealistically idyllic picture of what having children is like and I want to see how it does.

Man: So maybe we–

Woman:  Eleven likes in ten minutes!

Man:  So you’re saying you’re not in the–

Woman:  Seventeen likes!!!

End Scene

attempt 10 one final stab

Attempt 10

Woman:  It’s tonight.  Tonight is the night we buckle down and attempt to make a child.

Man:  (Passionately kisses woman’s neck after first checking for traces of child’s bowel movement)

Man and woman kiss and do this thing together that occasionally causes children.  I will not go into details, but it is an act that is well documented on the internet, if you should care to look.  They finish doing it and lie back together in the bed.

Man:  Ok.  We’ll see if that works.  Are you all right?  You look anxious.

Woman:  (Looks at man nervously)

Man:  You’re nervous that after all that it didn’t work?

Woman says nothing.

Man:  You’re nervous it did work?

Woman says nothing.

Man: Are you both happy that it might have worked but also terrified that we won’t be able to handle a second child and simultaneously terrified at the idea of bringing a second child into this world?

Woman:  Are you not terrified at those things?

Man:  Oh, I’m totally terrified.  I just wanted to know if you were terrified.

Woman:  Oh good, yes, I’m terrified also.

They sit silently next to each other in the bed for a while.

Man:  Well, it’s nice to have someone next to whom to be terrified.

Woman:  Same here.

Man: Can I see that photo you posted last night?

Woman:  Sure (opens Facebook on phone) 51 likes!  That’s the one from last night, and if you click on the arrows, it’ll show you all the previous ones I’ve posted.

Man and woman sit up against the headboard, clicking back endlessly through photos.  They watch their first child grow younger and younger as they go back– from a toddler, to a young toddler, to a baby, to a newborn.  They watch the birth, followed by shrinking photos of her pregnant belly, followed by a photo of an early, blob-like sonogram, followed by a birth announcement.  They continue to click, and the photos of their family are replaced by photos of the two of them– in a bar and one at a family birthday and one where they are out camping with friends.  There are photos of them at their wedding.  There is an album of them traveling in South America and a photo where they are dressed up for some work event and others where they are standing nose to nose in a photobooth photo, smiling at each other.  

Man:  I love you.  You’re great.

Woman:  So are you.  Also, this second child thing is going to be so, so hard.

Man:  I know.

Woman:  We’re going to be at our wits end and want to strangle each other a lot of the time.

Man:  Absolutely we will.  We’ll both give what we think is 100% and secretly feel like the other person is only giving 70%.  And we’ll be constantly exhausted and sort of resentful.

Woman:  Oh totally.

Man:  So you’re sure you want to do this?

Woman:  Weirdly, yes, I am.

Man:  Me too.  Also, I know this sounds crazy because it’s literally only 8:45 at night, but do you want to give up on getting anything done this evening and maybe just go to sleep now?

Woman:  Since you asked me to marry you, I have never so enthusiastically said yes to anything.

They kiss and lie next to each other in bed, worried and hopeful about the future but, more than anything, just completely exhausted.  They are both asleep within five minutes.

End Scene

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Comments

13 responses to “The Difficulties of Trying for a Second Child”

  1. Of course you are prepared – you have had a whole practice child! Also one of your spaghetti links should read more like “what this woman does next with spaghetti will amaze you!”.

    1. Raquel D'Apice Avatar
      Raquel D’Apice

      30 Best spaghetti recipes: NUMBER 17 WILL BLOW YOUR MIND.

  2. I laughed and laughed. Fortunately, I was a single parent from the moment I had help conceiving my son, so I never danced the At-tempting Child Two Tango. However I performed Child Care for more than 22 years, the first 15 months of which was 15 hours a day, 7 days a week including 1 overnight each week for a family with 2 boys. They knew far better than I did how to get themselves some free time. smh

    So, are you on your way to Child #2? Is it too early to know? Or were you just kidding after all? 🙂

    1. Raquel D'Apice Avatar
      Raquel D’Apice

      I’m more than on my way, I have a month and a half left in this pregnancy. Send help.

      1. Lisa R Avatar
        Lisa R

        Woot! #2 was beautiful. I love seeing them together (most of the time), and it’s harder, and easier than I expected. 10/10 Will probably do again…

  3. lol we so didn’t do it like that. more like “i refuse to stay on this bc b/c i hate it”. and a few months later…”oh, look at that”. my oldest is barely three and#3 is supposed to show up at the end of september…#2 is almost 16 months. i’m on my too-short stretch of one in diapers, no one on formula, and no one sleeping in my bed. what am i thinking? that i’ll be 40 in less than 8 years and i can stop then.

  4. FUCK YEAH MONGEESE

  5. Ray Lancon Avatar
    Ray Lancon

    Brilliant. I love this.

  6. So far with this second child thing, nine months in, the first child is way hard, but the baby’s pretty easy. Of course every child/baby is different, blah blah blah. But you can totally do this! Compared to the switch from zero to one, it’s like boiling a frog. Er, I hope it will also be that for you. Or something. What am I even saying.

  7. Laughed and laughed. We dogs all of this for #2 with the added bonus of making the babymaking tedious and unpopularly repetitive. Good times ??

  8. Laughed and laughed. We did all of this for #2 with the added bonus of making the babymaking tedious and unpopularly repetitive. Good times ??

  9. Too funny! Thanx for the post. xxx

  10. Well done. Equal parts sweet and funny.

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